How to be more sexually intimate with your Boyfriend

Sexual intimacy involves engaging in sexual actions with someone you feel connected to.

It’s possible to have one but not the other (sex but not emotional intimacy or vice versa), but sexual intimacy usually involves feeling both.

Learn to be more intimate sexually, with your partner (and with yourself!) through strategies like scheduling sex, asking more directly for what you want, and making time for your own pleasure.

How to be more sexually intimate with your Boyfriend

Many couples become nervous when they lose that sexual spark and intimacy, but it’s a relatively common feeling, especially if you’ve been in a relationship longer, and there are many ways to rekindle that spark.

1. Define intimacy for yourself.

First things first: Find out what intimate sex looks like for you and the person(s) you’re having sex with, Wright suggests. Without it, it might be a lot harder to connect at the moment. Organize an intimate brainstorming session and write down a few words/ideas to better understand your desires.

2. Improve daily communications with your partner.

Having a good emotional relationship with your partner can lead to a better sex life. Start taking the time to talk to your partner as a friend. Show your interest in your partner’s happiness and well-being. Here are some good ways to improve communication:

Ask you questions about your partner’s day. Make time to sit down and chat with your partner at least once a day, perhaps over dinner or over your morning coffee. Say something like, “How was work? or “Did you have fun with your friends?” or “What are you doing today?”

Call or text during the day. Staying in touch throughout the day can also help improve your communication. Try sending your partner a quick text or calling them just to say hello. You could send a message to your partner like, “I’m thinking of you. What are you doing now ? or call and say, “Hey, how’s your day going so far?”

Listen. Use good listening skills when your partner speaks to show that you are interested and involved. For example, face your partner, make eye contact, nod, and make neutral statements to indicate attention, such as “Yes,” “I understand,” and “Go ahead.”

3. Let your partner know how you feel.

It is important to let your partner know that you would like to have sex more often and to let your partner know of any other concerns you may have about your sexual relationship. By telling your partner these things, it may make it easier for you and your partner to find solutions to the problem.

For example, you might start a conversation about your sex life by saying, “I feel closer to you when we have sex regularly, but we haven’t had sex as often lately.” Is everything alright?

Keep in mind that your partner may have had bad sexual experiences in the past with partners who weren’t as caring or understanding. Be thoughtful and let her know that she can tell you things without your judgment (if that’s true for you).

4. Be patient.

Don’t let your thoughts and actions be controlled by your desire for physical intimacy. Building the foundation of physical love takes time. Consider taking a step back for a moment to give your partner time to be ready to have sex on their own time.

There will be many, many opportunities to have sex in a relationship, so overall, it’s probably okay to have a little less sex than you’d ideally like.

5. Work with your partner to achieve orgasm.

You shouldn’t pressure your partner to orgasm, but you can ask them if there is anything you can do to make it easier for them to have an orgasm. You can also learn about a few different techniques to increase your partner’s chances of reaching orgasm.

• Keep in mind that many women need direct stimulation of the clitoris to orgasm, so licking, touching, stroking, or using a vibrator on this area can significantly increase your chances of orgasm. If your partner is a man, ask him what works for him. This can help alleviate his performance anxiety issues and may also excite him.
• Touch your partner everywhere and kiss them somewhere other than the lips (but kiss the lips too).
• Use lubricant to avoid painful sex or friction.
• Change things up, whether it’s a different position or a different room, don’t always have sex the exact same way.
• You may also consider topical products like Zestra, which can help increase blood flow in women with sexual arousal or female interest disorders.
• Let your partner know that you find their body sexy. Sometimes people are self-conscious about their appearance, which can turn them off from sex. Reassure your partner about the fact that you find him attractive can help him relax and get in the mood.

6. Relax your attitude towards sex.

Sometimes people think that sex has to be a big production, but that’s not necessary at all. It’s just about physically connecting and having fun. Make it fun, relaxing and fulfilling, stress-free. This is your time to be yourself and bond with the person you care about.

Avoid viewing sex as some kind of sport or artistic performance. It’s not good if stupid things happen, if you laugh, if you make strange noises. Go with the flow and try not to worry about things like that.

Many problems with physical intimacy stem from nervousness about how your partner will perceive you or the idea that they will judge you for being inexperienced or for doing something embarrassing.

When you’re able to let go, relax, and allow yourself to be a little vulnerable, you’ll have a much better time and feel much closer to your partner as a result.

7. Treat your partner to a sensual massage.

Massage your partner to show physical affection, get to know their body, and get you both in the mood. Dim the lights and play some slow, sensual music to set the mood, then get ready to have some fun together. Have your partner undress and lie on their stomach, then run their hands over their shoulders and back.

8. Talk openly about sex with your partner.

Communication is the key to a positive sexual experience. If you’re shy, talk to your partner about how you’re feeling. You will feel more comfortable if there is an open dialogue. Once you start to feel truly comfortable with your partner, your physical intimacy will deepen.

Let your partner know that sex is a priority for you. If you both enjoy your sex life, you’ll probably take the time to talk about it and do it.

Remember, just like conversation, physical intimacy goes both ways. By knowing your partner’s preferences, you can please them to your heart’s content.

Come into this conversation with curiosity about what’s going on in your relationship and how your partner is experiencing your relationship and sexuality.

9. Have sex at different times of the day.

If you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s pretty easy to fall into a rut. Sex always happens at the same time and you always make the same movements. Shake it! The easiest way to trigger emotions is to interrupt your routine.

For example, if you usually have sex at night, try starting sex in the morning, when you have just woken up. If you’re worried about being late for work, set your alarm a little earlier.

10. Maintain your curiosity about sex.

When you and your partner have been together for a while, it’s natural to feel like you know everything about them, but that’s not always the case. People’s desires and interests are constantly evolving. Be curious to try new things and maintain an open dialogue with your partner about their sexual interests.

Likewise, just because something didn’t interest you when you tried it months or years ago doesn’t mean it won’t interest you forever. Allow your interests to change by recognizing that your partner’s interests are likely to change as well.

For example, you might try a different position or angle that you’ve never tried before. Moving around and trying different ways of having sex can be a lot of fun! You might even discover your new favourite position.

The continuing journey of sexual intimacy

Remember, being sexually intimate doesn’t mean you have to create a pattern and follow it for the rest of your life. As your relationship ages, you should find new ways to keep the spark alive. Adapt to the changing phases of your life together and develop a fulfilling sexual connection. Try something new to make your partner feel that you are still passionate about them. And don’t hesitate to seek help from a doctor if necessary. A sex therapist can always help you if you are facing relationship or sex life problems.

Conclusion

We discussed the crucial elements of a successful relationship. This is how you can be more sexually intimate with your partner, create a stronger emotional connection, and lead a fulfilling life.

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